[TSS] Chapter 1

1. Describe the marriage you respect: what is it about the couple that makes you admire their relationship?

I want to have the kind of marriage that my parents have had. They love each other in the deepest way I have ever seen. They hug each other and talk intimately everyday. They have their own job and own group of friends, but also the shared group. Most importantly, they are each other's best friend. They fully trust the other's decision and share the responsibility in the family. They love each other's strengths, know and bear the weaknesses, and help each other grow. I can tell that they love each other more every single day.


2. Ten years after you're married, how do you hope someone will describe your marriage relationship? Write out the ideal description of the relationship you hope to have.

We share the faith and look at the same direction. We are the best friend of each other, freely sharing the happiness and sorrow in life. We full trust each other. We go through all kinds of difficulties with God's love and guidance and health communication between us. We have lovely and good kids and live the kind of life that please God. Although there are things we feel regret about, we believe what we have now is the best plan from God and we feel content and grateful for it.


3. Describe some of the marriages you've seen that you definitely do not want to model your own marriage one. What attributes  of those relationships do you hope to avoid?

I don't want my marriage to be like to uncle and aunt's. They barely live together now. My uncle works and spend the majority of his time out while my aunt does not work and mainly does house chores. They don't share their ideas anymore, They don't seem to talk to each other or praise each other, but just yell at each other and complain about life. They seems to be very passive about their relationship and don't feel like family in love anymore.


4.Have you ever asked yourself the question "why do I want to get married?" Why do you want to get married?

I want to get married because I want to share my life with someone, share both ups and downs.


5. How do you think getting married with the intention of "seeking first the kingdom of God" will change the way you pursue someone to marry, as well as the type of person you might consider?

I believe that it is true. if I know God first, I know that his has the best plan for me, and I don't have to worry too much but just follow his guidance. Also, God teaches us how to live, and I will be able to tell if someone lives in a biblical and good way. I definitely want to marry the person who value the same thing that I value.